Having someone wonderful in your life can dramatically change it for the better. Who wouldn’t want a special person to share in life’s journey? Matrimony is one of the sacraments. Marriage is a holy calling. In a marriage, husband and wife help each other on the path to heaven.
Getting seriously involved with someone isn’t something to take lightly. Life is more challenging if you choose an incompatible partner. Approximately half of all marriages end in divorce. The Center for Applied Research in the Apostolate at Georgetown University reported that 28% of Catholic marriages end in divorce. Divorce is extremely difficult for everyone involved, especially children.
The costs of an unsuccessful relationship are both emotional and financial. You also lose time, which is something you’re unable to get back.
It’s important to realize that finding your perfect partner will require time and effort. Few great things happen by accident, and most require intention. Most accomplishments start with a goal, a plan, and an ongoing effort.
"We know that all things work for good for those who love God, who are called according to his purpose." - Romans 8:28
It’s important to assess your situation and ask yourself some important questions.
Is this an appropriate time for you to get involved in a relationship?
Are you ready for this wonderful person to come into your life?
Timing is everything in a relationship. The better your situation, the greater the chances of finding true love.
If your ideal mate came into your life today, would they be attracted to you in your current condition? We all have times when our efforts might be better spent getting our own lives straightened out, rather than getting involved in a romantic relationship.
While it’s nice to believe that love is blind, it might be a good time to operate under the premise of “better safe than sorry.”
The good news:
Regardless of how difficult your life might be, there’s someone out there who would be thrilled to be with you. But it’s more challenging to make it work when you’re struggling on your own.
Many challenges can be fixed with some time and effort. A little time and focus can change your situation for the better. Take time for yourself, if you need it.
HEALTH
How is your health? As we get older, we all develop health issues. While some issues are unavoidable, you owe it to yourself and your partner to do your best to manage your health. A few months of eating well and exercising may open up more dating prospects. When you take care of yourself, it’s more likely that you’ll attract someone who also takes care of himself and where you will take care of each other.
FINANCES
Is your credit in good shape? Are you working?
How much debt are you carrying?
Are you responsible with money?
Financial issues are one of the major causes of marital issues and divorce.
Why make your relationship more challenging than it needs to be?
If your financial life could be in better shape, spend time getting back on track before you start looking for love.
CAREER
Are you on a career path that pleases you? Are you proud of the work you do?
If you’re less than content with your current job situation, do you have a plan to move on to something else?
SOCIAL LIFE
Do you have some friends that you spend time with on a regular basis? Is your social life what you would like it to be? Others tend to be suspicious of those without any close friends.
SPIRITUAL LIFE
Do you go to church on a regular basis and frequently go to the sacrament of reconciliation?
How is your prayer life?
How is your relationship with God?
Do you take time to listen to God and have regular meditation time?
Do you visit the Blessed Sacrament?
Does he read the bible and meditate on how to apply it in his life?
OTHER FACTORS
It isn’t as if every aspect of your life requires perfection before you can start looking for a life partner. One of the great parts of having a companion is that you can share your challenges and support one another through them. Your ideal mate will be someone who embraces your “flaws.”
But if you’re 100 pounds overweight, have several health concerns, are jobless, and without friends, the pickings may be slim.
You owe it to yourself and your potential mate to get yourself together. A little self-improvement can go a long way.
If you’re unhappy, you’ll tend to repel those that are content in their lives!
Keep in mind that people are surprisingly accepting of your challenges if you’re working on making things better. Most people are more concerned with the direction of their life than their current situation. Everyone appreciates an honest effort.
This article is part of section of the Find Your Perfect Partner Ebook. If you'd like to read the rest of the ebook, please email Celeste at loveisonitsway.mktg@gmail.com
"May the Lord direct your hearts to the love of God and to the endurance of Christ."
2 Thessalonians 3:5
